{"id":46102,"date":"2022-01-25T15:17:18","date_gmt":"2022-01-25T15:17:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/?p=46102"},"modified":"2022-01-25T15:18:31","modified_gmt":"2022-01-25T15:18:31","slug":"just-accept-it-and-other-useless-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/2022\/01\/25\/just-accept-it-and-other-useless-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;Just accept it&#8217; and other useless pieces of advice."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Coaching is really hard.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And it\u2019s very easy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You see what I did there?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A paradox.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Very spiritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Very deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But also utterly useless if you try to get it intellectually.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Because life just doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Life is not a logical event or a puzzle for the mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So who gives a shit about depth if it sounds like a spiritual Hallmark card?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Who cares about deep stuff when it doesn\u2019t offer you anything?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Coaching is hard because it\u2019s about people, and people come with endless layers of opinions and preferences and habits and memories and wishes and judgments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Coaching is easy if you know what to do, where to be, HOW to be, and what to say at the right moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Those things come from experience and owning your personal human crap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don\u2019t get them from books, or Instagram posts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2018Just accept it\u2019 is bullshit advice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And somehow it\u2019s also true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And deep.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But how do you convey these contradictory things, where do you go when mere intellectual understanding is not nearly enough?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How do you make it tangible, real, experiential, without just quoting other people\u2019s words, even if these words refer to something profound?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Well, that is really hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And it\u2019s also not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let me show you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Coaching is really hard. And it\u2019s very easy. You see what I did there? A paradox. Very spiritual. Very deep. But also utterly useless if you try to get it intellectually. Because life just doesn\u2019t work that way. Life is not a logical event or a puzzle for the mind. So who gives a shit [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":46104,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"redux-templates_canvas","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[102,97,96,117,114,100,116,113,103,112],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-46102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-angst","category-wakkerworden","category-coaching","category-english","category-ondernemen","category-inzichten","category-persoonlijk","category-zingeving","category-spiritualiteit","category-eigenwijs"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46102","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=46102"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46102\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":46105,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/46102\/revisions\/46105"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/46104"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=46102"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=46102"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/nieuw.marnix.nl\/homepage\/welkom\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=46102"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}